Texas – Part 1

I went to Houston, Texas for my second state of this journey. Last time, in Colorado I had a guy and date set up months in advance. Everything didn’t go as planned when I went to, so I went to Texas with no plan at all. Ehhh probably wasn’t my best idea. I mean I had some sort of plan. All I knew was what restaurants I wanted to go to because, a girl has got to eat.

I went into the weekend having a few guys that were interested in going on a date with me. Unfortunately I had to keep saying Thank U, Next as Ariana Grande would say.

The Clever Guy

A few weeks before my trip, I set my OkCupid account to a Houston zip code, so I could start finding some guys before I got there. Gabe sent a clever message to me that persuaded me to move off the app. We texted for a bit, and he told me to hit him up when I got to Houston. I thought it was a reasonable enough ask. I had a few weeks before I was headed to Houston and I’d much rather get to know someone in person. When I arrived in Houston I texted him. He responded saying he lost all his contacts *rolls eyes.

Not to my surprise, he didn’t text me back after I told him I was in town.

THANK U, NEXT

The Sick Guy

A couple days before I left for Houston, Justin immediately proposed date ideas: salsa dance class or indoor skydiving. I liked that he got straight to the point and responded right away. He asked to go out that weekend and I thought I clearly found my date for Texas. The Thursday night when I landed I got a text that he was sick. I thought something was iffy already, because he only texted me around 10/11pm. When I looked back on OKCupid it showed that he unmatched with me, so I just left him alone.

Funny thing is he actually texted me when I got back to Georgia.

THANK U, NEXT

The Funny Guy

Kevin started off asking a whole bunch of questions he wanted me to answer. I figured that’s what he sent to all his matches, but they were interesting questions so I took a go at it. He never responded after I answered so I reached back out to him playfully. He apologized and we messaged on the app some more. I could tell he would always make me laugh so he intrigued me. Randomly he sent me his phone number and I texted him.

A few days later he called me and we got to know each other a little bit. Kevin clearly didn’t read my bio, so I explained my blog to him. He was intrigued by the idea and jokingly asked how he could apply. I told him all he had to do was to come up with the most adventurous date idea and let me know. I heard back from him the day before my flight and asked if he came up with an idea. He never responded.

He did add me on Snapchat later that night…

Thank U, Next

The Plans Guy

I made plans with Gabriel Friday, to go to Moody Gardens the following day. He said he was down but I never heard anything from him the rest of the day. I woke up the next morning and got ready to enjoy crepes at Sweet Paris. After I ate my delicious crepes, he finally texted me back apologizing for being busy. He said we were still on for today but I waited for 5 hrs and never heard back.

Thank U, Next

The Application Guy

I was sick and tired of waiting around so I reached out to a guy that applied. Struggling to find a secure date, I found him on OKCupid letting me know he filled out my questionnaire. I wasn’t super attracted to him, but he was excited to take me out. I told him I was available and he gave me a time and place immediately. Finally I found an upstanding guy! Don’t worry I’ll tell you more about the date later.

When I went to Colorado my favorite part was going to the hot springs. I went by myself not having to worry if someone would join me for a date. This past weekend wasn’t as easy as Colorado. I actually shed tears Friday night in Houston. Partial because I was missing Alex, but also because I realized I had to deal the dating BS again.

Ariana Grandes’ song Thank U, Next is not just about her exes and the lessons she’s learned from them. She has also learned more about herself and loves herself. This dating world is brutal nowadays. You can be ghosted, breadcrumbed, or catfished and it puts a downer on your dating life. I’ve done the waiting around and chasing after a guy that won’t respond to my texts. If I need to I’ll go on a date with myself I will.

I know my self worth and I’m saying Thank U, Next.

Are you saying Thank U, Next too?