So my guilty pleasure is definitely the reality TV show The Bachelor/Bachelorette. While it may not be complete reality and little unconventional it has work for some couples. While this show does not have a 100% success rate, I believe there are a few dating lessons you can learn from the show.
1. DATE MULTIPLE PEOPLE
If you’re single you are a free agent and are allowed to date as many people as you would like. On the show one guy/girl dates 32 people publicly. While it builds a lot of competition between the contestants and gives the bachelor plenty of options. The difference is everybody knows each other. While I don’t think all your dates should know each other, they should at least know that you are dating other people. At least until they want to make it official.
2. ENJOY THE JOURNEY
On the show they begin in California, but as the show goes further they visit other states and then other countries. In each place they experience adventurous dates. Even if the participants don’t get chosen they can appreciate the fun experiences they had and even the friends they made along the way.
3. BE OPEN & VULNERABLE
When it comes to love you have to be open and vulnerable. Even though it’s scary if you can’t open up to someone about your fears and dreams. Sometimes you should make big gestures to show someone you want them, that you care about them. The big gesture doesn’t have to be actually ‘big’ but just show something big. Buying them their favorite candy or saving an item from your first date. These gestures are simple, but big because if shows you’re listening and how much you actually care.
4. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
So many guys go on Bachelorette and don’t know if their ready for an engagement. Some people go on the show for publicity and won’t even attracted to the Bachelor/Bachelorette. During the dating game you shouldn’t waste anyways. Vocalize what you each want and if doesn’t line don’t lower standards to fit them.
5. KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
If you are one of 25 people that someone is dating that can be really tough. You’ll feel insecure if you think the Bachelor/Bachelorette doesn’t give you a rose on a group date. You’ll feel a type of way knowing that he/she kissing someone else when you’re just a few feet away. I think anyone is allowed to feel this way, but you can’t blame/loose yourself. I know most of my dating years I thought something had to be wrong with me, but when I started value myself and realize how I special I was, I knew we just weren’t meant to be.
The Bachelor may not be complete reality, but they’re are all real people. All of us yearn for love, and would be crazy enough to sign up for this show. Some are even crazy enough to start a blog and date a guy in every state. There is no equation to find love and there’s no right way to do it, but ‘The Bachelor’ is one kind of way.
